Think on this: "The truth you believe in and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new. By the way that we think and by the way that we believe in things, in that way is our world created...Holding on to [and not examining] beliefs limits our experience of life...There are wars...because people are insulted that someone else doesn't agree with their belief system.

Everybody is guilty of it...People find it quite easy to have beliefs and to hold on to them and to let their whole world be a product of their belief system. They also find it quite easy to attack those who disagree. The harder, more courageous thing, which the hero and the heroine, the warrior, and the mystic do, is continually to look one's beliefs straight in the face, honestly and clearly, and then step beyond them. That requires a lot of heart and kindness...Acknowledge it without judging it right or wrong. See it clearly...[then] come back to the present moment.

As a way of becoming more compassionate toward yourself and toward others, as a way of becoming less...absolutely sure that you're right and the other person is wrong, as a way to develop a sense of humor about the whole thing, to lighten it up, open it up, you could do this.

You could begin to notice whenever you find yourself blaming others or justifying yourself. If you spent the rest of your life just noticing that and letting it be a way to uncover the silliness of the human condition--the tragic yet comic drama that we all continually buy into--you could develop a lot of wisdom and a lot of kindness as well as a great sense of humor...It allows you to reflect that that's all it is---nothing more, nothing less: just your interpretation of reality."

  • Pema Chodron, The Wisdom of No Escape